If we’re upset and confused, we’re going to force our upset and confusion on somebody else. If two people are married and one has an emotional hang-up, that person may cause the other one emotional confusion, and then the marriage will be crippled. The existence will be crippled.
If someone around you is emotionally upset, tell that person not to put that on you. You can help that person work through it, but don’t take that confusion and upset on yourself. You don’t have to allow that.
Be selfish in a positive way.
(From: Sex, Spirit and You, p. 73)