i still think you went way over with the theatrics in that situation and if you asked the boys now what they thought the conversation between you and them had been about they wouldn’t bring up racism. they would say it was a bet. by creating a big stir about the money, you lost the opportunity to talk about why what they said upset you. it could have been a good learning experience for them. but instead it ended up just reaffirming that when joe really knows something, he bets crazy large. is that really what you wanted the outcome to be? because it sounds like you wanted to share something about racism and how the extra bone comment effected you. and i think you lost out there.