Hi Marty, on the base level my problem with the book is that it claims to be delivering the Way Things Are and the Way Things Should Be in regards to gender and relationships, when really JE’s observations and advice pertain to specific people (like yourself) who find them very very helpful and inspiring. His observations (and his wife’s in their follow up books) have never applied to me or helped me but instead preached to me as though I am living in community the wrong way, viewing beauty the wrong way, and am still single because I’m doing it all the wrong way. If they were more humble in their philosophy it would be a lot more swallow-able because I know that there are lots of people (like you!) who gets lots out of it.