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  • Lovely Light Mom

    I snuck this photo of my Mom, Phyllis Crawford, when visiting Northern Virginia in May 2007. My sister was getting her Master’s Degree and many of us were visiting. I love the light in this photo. And I miss Mom. She would have been 72 today had she not died of cancer in 2010. May 8th…


  • Mother’s Day.

    1949 1955 1960 1966 1977 1983 1988 1994 2005 These are the years that my Mom, Phyllis Crawford‘s birthday fell on a Sunday, the second Sunday in may — Mother’s Day. In my kid-memory her birthday always fell on Mother’s Day which was just another way she was perfect. But the truth is memory is…


  • Choose a Gift for Phyllis

    This time of year is hard. Clicking through gets me to a grid of easily purchased items under the headline: “Choose a Gift for Phyllis.” Social media, Facebook, knows who my mother is. It’s smart enough to know that. And in spite of the fact that she died in October, 2010, I can’t bear, yet,…

  • TWO_YEARS_HENCE

    AND THEN I LOOKED UP AND IT WAS TWO YEARS SINCE MY MOTHER WAS DEAD BECAUSE I HAD PUT IT ON MY ELECTRONIC CALENDAR TO ALWAYS REMIND ME THAT IT WAS OCTOBER 27 THAT WAS THE DAY THAT MY MOTHER DIED AND GETS EQUAL BILLING WITH THE NEW YEAR AND SAINT PATRICK’S DAY AND TAX…


  • Happy Mother’s Day

    Photo of Mom from 2005. Happy Mother’s Day Phyllis. Save us a seat.

  • K-R Grief Observation

    In Wikipedia, about the Kübler-Ross model, it’s said of the “5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance)” this (the emphasis is mine): Kübler-Ross claimed these steps do not necessarily come in the order noted above, nor are all steps experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least…

  • Ave Maria, a favorite of my Mom

    Ave Maria was a favorite song of my Mom’s. It was played at her Wedding on June 15, 1968 at St. Rita’s Catholic Church in San Diego, California. And it was also played at her beautiful Memorial Mass on November 6, 2010 at Our Lady of Nazareth Catholic Church in Roanoke, Virginia. Below are both…

  • Phyllis Crawford: Memorial Mass DVD, Donations

    Two Mom related items for today: For those of you who are friends and family of Phyllis, we have made a DVD of the Memorial Mass for her held at Our Lady of Nazareth Church on November 6, 2010. Just send me your address and we’ll get it out to you. Also, We have been…


  • Mom playing Words With Friends on her iPod Touch on the front porch

    My Mom played this game with my Sister on a little iPod touch here at the house. When Leah and I arrived here in November of 2009 we introduced more and more technology. Leah taught her to use her cellphone to send text messages. It was a blast to get messages from my Mom with…


  • Phyllis Crawford, Obituary

    Phyllis (Silva) Crawford, 64, of Roanoke, Virginia, daughter of Jesus and Phyllis Silva of San Diego, California, died on October 27, 2010 after a three year and four month battle with Stage IV renal cell carcinoma. Phyllis was a devoted wife, mother and friend. She was an active parishioner of Our Lady of Nazareth Catholic…

  • Update On My Mom’s Condition

    See: Phyllis Crawford, Roanoke, Virginia

  • Phyllis Silva Crawford’s Life Lessons

    In 2010, Phyllis Crawford’s daughter-in-law Leah Peterson asked her to contribute to a book about the lessons learned in life. These are what she shared. I believe we were created by God and when we get to the end of our life he won’t be concerned with our job title or financial status. I think…


  • On the Eve of Jim & Phyllis’ Wedding

    This is a time capsule from the night before my parents were married in June of 1968. It’s an audiotape made by my uncle Jerry at my Parent’s rehearsal dinner. It’s quite remarkable. Who will you hear? Who? Age   James Crawford 21 Groom Phyllis Silva 22 Bride Art Silva   Father of the Bride…

  • Phyllis Singing Karaoke

    She did not want to sing karaoke, she was pretty clear about that. So the crowd (which is to say her sisters and cousins and family) let her be. Then, after a while, she got up and sang a wee bit of Sinatra. That’s part of the spirit that has everyone remembering her and saying…

  • Phyllis Crawford, Roanoke, Virginia

    Update, October 27, 2010 In the early morning, October 27, 2010, Phyllis Crawford died peacefully at home, surrounded by her family. Details about services will be posted at a later date. She died as she lived, defying and exceeding expectations. We pray we can honor her memory, and we thank everyone for the outpouring of…


  • Stupid Relentless Cancer

    I have written about my Mom and her struggle with cancer before, starting in 2007: here and here and here and here and here and here. Here we are, in 2010, two and a half years later and my Mom keeps moving forward. All the energy on display in those prior blog posts is there…

  • The Misc on the Bus Goes Round and Round

    I had gotten in the habit of blogging every weekday for the last few weeks, but broke that streak by not blogging on Friday or subsequently, until this lovely Sunday morning. So, yes. What is to say, exactly? The answer is that there are quite a few random datapoints I could mention. Here are a…


  • Commute

    So I talked to my Mom and she’s having a rough go of it right now. Hard to hear that someone you love is in pain. Her spirits were high though, and I love her very much. She’s looking forward to her and my Dad’s 40th Wedding Anniversary June 15th. Miss her a lot. Sometimes…