It’s been some time since Leah wrote anything at length. Do yourself a favor and have a read of This One is for My Flock of Black Sheep (and Their Families), one of many good bits:
There have always been outcasts because we as humans have always been in tribes. In order for tribes to feel strong and cohesive and SURVIVE, there had to be an US versus THEM mentality. Not many of us actually need this dynamic anymore, given that we live in homes and have food on the table and our actual physical survival isn’t brokered by creating bonding rituals. And yet, these old patterns persist.
Update May 2024: this post was removed, but I’m leaving the quoted portion up. Leoh was once my spouse, and remains a terrific person and a friend.